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Dresses That Straggle The Seasons. Let's Aim To Buy Less & Wear More

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Let me start this post by saying that I don't want to encourage anyone to buy 'stuff' unnecessarily. Your first point of call should always be your own wardrobe. These days I buy to replace or to refresh and I can do this because I've been totally focussed on building a core wardrobe of classic items that are neither in or out of fashion. And please don't read classic as investment or expensive, they don't have to be. We'll address this issue soon.

Mind you, sometimes it hurts when I see a pair of shoes or a cracking dress that I love but I want this planet to still be around for my great great great great grandchildren and the way we're going at the moment, it ain't going to be. Please, please think before you buy into every trend going. Shop wisely. End of sermon.

I'm always on the lookout for clothes that straddle the seasons and I think the dresses featured below do just that. First up, a rust and caramel mix midi.

Shirt Dress £45


6 Things I'll Be Taking On My Holiday

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1. My Trusty White Panama Hat

Two years old and about five holidays in, it's still going strong. I like the fact that it doesn't cast unsightly shadows across the face. I don't like the fact that I can't lean back on a sun-lounger without crushing the brim, so my even older (18 years to be precise) Ralph Lauren baseball cap does the job.

Soft white is a flattering shade for most of us, particularly when we have a bit of a tan or hint of colour.

On a side note, check out my Hydrangeas, yes they were a surprise to me too. I don't venture down to this side of the garden much. Poor things never get watered or fed and yet they still keep on giving. There's a lesson to be leant there somewhere. And see those gingery brown doors, the whole of the woodwork on the barn is being painted black very soon. Mega excited.

Dress - TK Maxx (old)
Hat - Sommerville Scarves (old)
Bag - Marks & Spencer (no longer available)
Sandals - Sam Edelman (old)


The Killer Weapons You Need In Your Arsenal To Look More Youthful

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I remember my nan going to Spain way back in the mid 70s and coming back with presents for her many grandchildren (the first super-shopper).  Good old nan with her white hair, elasticated trousers and sensible shoes. Well she was old right? Err no. She was my age or thereabouts. I remember her as being a little old lady. In fact, I've had a look at a few photographs to check. Yup, definitely old. But that was kind of the thing back then wasn't it? People were less obsessed with their appearance and just got on with it. We could take a leaf out of that generation's book. Instead I find myself writing this post....because I don't want to look old. Pffft. I'm not quite ready to go under the knife yet (I've given myself a target date of 55 and it will be a one and only time), so what can we do in the meantime? By the way, before we get started, these are merely suggestions, or food for thought, you know me by now, I don't set rules!

1. Change Your Make-Up Habits

Anyone guilty of doing the same old thing day in, day out? I am. There's nothing more ageing than a dated make-up look and yet we don't do anything about it. I knew there was something wrong with my foundation at the beginning of this year so I switched to another brand and it still looked awful. So I switched again and guess what. Still dreadful. It looked cakey and heavy, and that's never happened before. So after a recommendation from a friend, I purchased this:

Unisex Healthy Glow Hydrating Tint £35 (free delivery on this website)


Bag It!

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I've had a scout around t'internet for summer bags. Mainly because the other half insists on clapping Federer's every point and is doing my head in. He's 38 soon Donna, it could be his last chance. Yeah I know, I quite enjoy the commentary but can't bloody hear it. Shut up!

So I've come into another room. And hey I'm of female form and can multi-tax between points. Let's have a look at what's out there, cheap and cheerful, nothing designer, just something to freshen up an old summer/holiday outfit. Because yeah, a bag (and shoes for that matter) can really work it's magic.

First up, and this was a surprise to me as I rarely shop at Hush but I'd placed an order for this dress and couldn't resist a quick scoot around the website. By the way if you fancy the dress, size down two sizes it's huge. Check out this little selection and all in the sale.

All bags can be found here


How To Dress When Your Lifestyle Conflicts With Your Style Personality

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Our lifestyle dictates the way we lead our lives. A stay at home mum would find it pretty difficult running around after the kids in stilettos and pencil skirt for example so she adapts her style to accommodate her circumstances. Sounds easy enough yes? 

Except we have to factor style personality into the mix. Your style personality is an expression of you as a person; your character and spirit. Often it can dictate your style and you'll find yourself drawn to certain looks that you feel confident and happy in. So for example, I'm very much drawn to smarter, clean lines and feel a complete scruff in slouchy, baggy cuts. Whereas I see some bloggers totally rocking the whole dressed down look. Neither of us are right or wrong, we just have different style personalities.


It's 60% Off Madness: Sales Galore But Shop Sensibly!

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It's easy to slot in a few sale buys when you've built a timeless wardrobe. I was in Bath yesterday and was stunned at the number of 60% off bargains. Not great for the High Street, I'm sure that the weather has played havoc with business this year, but it really is an excellent opportunity to freshen up your wardrobe with a couple of pieces.

Here are a few favourites from Boden.

There's 60% of this very wearable dress. This is the kind of thing that I find really easy to wear with flip flops in the day, heels in the evening and of course a great holiday option too.

Remember it's a sale item, read that as leftovers ie. no one wanted to buy it at full price. So it's useful to know why. I always check the online reviews which sometimes gives you a clue as to the reason. Generally this dress receives good reviews so I'd be tempted to give it a whirl. It's available in navy as well.

I guess if I were to criticise one thing, it would be the kimono sleeve which can draw the eye down to your middle, not so good if you carry weight in that area.

Remi Embroidered Midi Dress Was £90, now £36

Remi Dress


Getting Older Body Shapes, Dupes & How To Create A Timeless Wardrobe In The Sales

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Howdy! The house is quiet, husband isn't back until later tonight so I thought I'd sit down and write a bit of a blog post. Are these still a thing? Do we even read them anymore? Or has Instagram poached the very last crumb? Ahhh well, I'm still here, hope you are too.

I've had a fondness for Me&Em for a fair few years and one of the things that I've come to realise is that a lot of the clothes are cut for rectangles. Handy that as a woman's body shape changes with age and becomes more rectangular. You know, the loss of the waistline, flat bottom and a tendency for weight to settle around the tummy. Not always, but often.


My New Business


Still Getting Organised In The New Gaff

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I started writing a sob story about how since moving house, I've lost tonnes of upstairs storage space but then wondered why you would want to know this. So let's cut to the chase and get down to what I really want to tell you about without the ruddy fluffy stuff. Shoe storage!

I ordered these cheap and cheerful plastic, stackable shoe boxes expecting them to be rubbish and they're actually not bad at all.

Plastic Pull-Out Modular Shoe Boxes

(£24.68 for a pack of 24 & free delivery)

Modular Shoe Boxes


It's All About The White Trainer. A Comparison of High End And Mid Price Trainers And How Do You Keep Yours Clean?

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Let's talk white trainers. Why? Because they are so versatile and look great with trousers, jeans, skirts and dresses. Such an easy option.

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Steam Generator Iron Number 3 (& I'm Not Sulking About Buying Another)

I don't know about you but I just cannot trust online reviews these days, even when they are verified purchases. I was once approached by a brand to give a favourable review on Amazon in return for a gift card which would enable me to purchase the item. Needless to say I said no thanks. Caveat Emptor, let the buyer beware is more pertinent than ever. So with this in mind, let me say that this iron has been purchased with my own money, I have not been approached by, or received any compensation by the brand or it's associates. This is just one of those good old fashioned reviews (yeah remember them?). Affiliate link used. Let the review commence....

Well after 4 solid days of celebrating the little one's 18th birthday, including two days in London, a VERY LOUD teenage house party and family day eating Sunday lunch, drinking copious amounts of anything fizzy and playing rounders in the garden, I'm more than ready to get back to normal.

And you can't get more normal than this....steam generator irons! I first spoke about these two years ago (almost to the date). It's here if you would like to read it. I think they've become a lot more popular and there is certainly far more choice which is a good thing because mine recently died a death. 'Twas a very sad day indeed but I knew it had been coming for a couple of months (you get to know your electrical appliances quite intimately don't you?). I was a bit hmmmm because it's the second one I've had and I thought that it really should have served me another year. But I guess it's worked hard.

So the search was on for another. The steam generator iron hasn't really come on that much since I bought mine. I mean, no radical technological advances such as robotic self ironing or anything. And, I've been more than happy with the old one, so after a quick skirt around the internet, I opted for another Philips.

Philips PerfectCare Elite Steam Generator 

Philips PerfectCare Elite Steam Generator 


Preparing Myself For The Demise Of The Skinny Trosuers

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Oh I couldn't not share these trousers with you!

I'm trying to prepare myself for the demise of the skinny trouser. It's painful and not without tantrums. But it's good to plan forward right? A bit like Brexit really. Yes, skinnies/Brexit, the same really.

Ok, I'll keep this brief just because it's Friday and no one should be blogging on Friday.

Zara isn't my favourite shop but they do a really good basic pair of trousers. I have two pairs already and they seem to wear very well. Not that I panicked or anything but I couldn't find any on the website or in the shop just after Christmas. That's it then, I'm done for.  I'd totally resigned myself to enjoying the ones I have until they fall to bits. I kept telling myself; sod it, they're nothing special, they were only £25 but god that niggle wouldn't go away. And then casually browsing the other night, I came upon these.


Freshening Up Spring Outfits With A Pair Of Shoes

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Quick one from me. I've been after a pair of navy shoes for what seems like decades, certainly the time and effort that has been put into this search feels that way. Why are decent navy shoes so hard to come by?

Anyway, found them! Oh the relief.

They're a perfect style for me and yes the strap does stay up on those skinny ankles if you're wondering. Two-tone with a patent cap toe and a Brucie-bonus padded insole (sigh). Oh and leather too.

Slingback Shoe £39.50

Shoe - M&S

Sometimes I feel the need to slip out of trainers and wear something a little smarter. Same outfits, different shoes. Amazing how a small change can really smarten up a look!

And a great dupe for the Chanel sling-back. Ok the heel is slightly less elegant and the sling back itself is not a perfect copy. There might be a tad more of a pointed toe going on too. Oh yeah and the colour is totally different. But, other than that, same!

I've actually been in love with these for a long time and have even toyed with buying the real things. But when I realised that the dupes came in the nude/black too, I was a woman on a mission. Five stores and weeks of website stalking later, I bagged them. It was stressful. 🙄 Although they've since restocked a few sizes online but if you want them, I'd hurry because there were only the very odd pair of size 3s and 8s in the FIVE stores that I visited.

Slingback Shoe £39.50

Shoes - M&S

Oh and these are even more dupe-y (and they ship worldwide). Got to give them some love too.

Slingback Shoes £90.29

Shoes - Sam Edelman

Now all I need is for the wind and rain to do one.


AWOL (again)

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Oh hi.....is there anyone out there?

How the devil are you? It's been a while.

I know, I know, I've been particularly rubbish this time. I make promises and can't seem to keep them because that damn real life gets in the way. That and the fact that I don't feel I have much to write about anymore. Body shapes, colour, style personality, it's all been covered in previous posts.


We've been in the new house for just over 4 1/2 months, it still feels strange and I'd be lying if I didn't say it's a money-pit. Or should we settle on money-gulf. Urgh!!! The central heating is still alluding the best of plumbers. Burst water pipes that went undiscovered for well, I don't know how long (thankfully on the outside and we're not on a water meter - always an upside). The wasp/ladybird/fly infestation has subsided because of the cold weather and I am so waiting for those little blighters when/if they come back. Oh and the electric gates don't work in cold weather (nothing new there, same problem, different house). And we won't even talk about the wi-fi. We have a full on comms cabinet, yeah sure it looks rather hi-tech, more cables than the BT server but it struggles with even a basic signal in our bedroom. All fur coat and no substance if you ask me.


Chunky or Thin Knits. Which Camp Are You In?

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Klaxon alert, the Nordic chill is on it's way. Brrrrrrrrr. This will be a test for the new house because so far it's been pretty toasty. Mind you, I'm obsessed with the oil gauge which I check daily. That darn marker just keeps on going down and down. Give me a gas meter locked in a box with a funny plastic key that no one can find any day.

Anyway, looks like it's finally hat, gloves and scarf weather. I'm all for a chunky jumper but they do have a fundamental flaw; they're so difficult to layer. I find myself skipping passed them in the wardrobe because for me, they don't work under many of my jackets and coats. Can't stand that stuffed sausage feeling!

This is where thinner knits come into their own. Not only are they easier to layer, they're also a tad more versatile. I'll happily stick a shirt under a crew neck. They're smart enough to wear under a blazer when the occasion calls. And up until today's baltic temperatures, I'd throw on a scarf and go coatless. All the rock and roll!

Celtic & Co asked if I would like to try one of their knits so it was a no-brainer to choose a thin knit. My mother-in-law has bought from this brand for years and my sister-in-law reminded me that she too bought a pair of Ugg style boots ages ago and they're still going strong. So I had high hopes when I placed my order.

I chose the slouchy fine knit roll neck in blush for reasons mentioned above and because blush is one of my favourite colours.


A Few Notes On Building A Capsule Wardrobe

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I've been asked a few times to talk about the elusive capsule wardrobe. What even is that? I guess it means different things to different people. A couple of readers tell me often that they're evangelical about having a certain number of jeans, tops, jackets etc. Wow, I'm always in awe, I have visions of these fabulous colour co-ordinated open wardrobes that you seen on Pinterest. Me? Nah, I like a little bit more choice.


An Answer To My Creaky Joints?? Yep Getting Old Sucks!

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It hit me recently that there are more people that are younger than me in the world, than older. Wow. That hurts! Yep, I don't handle this age thing very well.

See I told you, look at this graph. There are only 29% of people that are older than me (weeps into her tea). Oh to be 3 years old again.


Doing Casual At Home Dressing Without Frightening The Postman

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Bit of a risky one this as I'm talking leggings, come on now, fess up, I'll bet you have a pair tucked away in the back of your drawers somewhere. May be even two pairs 😲 Like Monopoly Boards aren't they, every household has a pair of leggings.

Thing is, sometimes I get up in a morning and all I want to do is wear something totally cosy. My pyjamas for example. But I don't really do casual very well. Smart casual, yes, that's easy. Casual-casual, I just can't pull it off. Never knowingly underdressed, it's not really in my nature.

Ath-Leisure, tried that one, look as if I'm about to work out with Patsy and Edina. Looser jeans aka boyfriend cut...how does anyone cope with the voluminous fabric around the crotch area? Harem pants ditto.

So leggings it is. Except I have a pet hate for black leggings, the ones that Primark sell by the bucket load. A little bit too closely related to 80 denier tights!! I need something with a bit of texture and as if by magic, I spotted these in M&S. Which is rather good news as my non-smart trouser drawer has somewhat depleted.

Jumper - Next
Leggings - Marks & Spencer
Traines - Vionic Shoes


Moving House, Buying Less, Lashes & Brows & Clothing Rails (yep, it's a busy post)

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Moving On

We moved house a few weeks ago, the kids are all grown up (one is in London, the other will be going to Uni next year) so we upsized as you do. 🙈 It wasn't intentional, well not on my part anyway, we just fancied a change and there was very little to choose from. We put our old house up for sale back in March, had 4 viewings and 4 offers. Yas!!! We chose the people who we thought would be the least complicated (in terms of chain, not character). They pushed for an early exchange and completion so much so that I was left breathless, chasing my tail and running around Cheshire viewing houses that bore little resemblance to our wish list. Got to exchange day and the blighters dropped out! That's fickle footballers for you (I'm not naming any names but.....Championship League). Left us with a rather hefty lawyer's bill for what? Nowt!


An Alternative Approach To Weeding Your Wardrobe

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How the devil are you? Long time no speak and all. My blogging brain simply withered and died back in June, a bit like the pot plants in the back garden. But a bit of R&R and I feel ready to go again.

And to kick off, here's an idea that I came up with whilst travelling over the top of the Peak District where radio stations are somewhat limited. It was either The Vinyl Years on High Peak Radio or The History of The Beard on Radio 4. I'll pass thanks.