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Getting Older Body Shapes, Dupes & How To Create A Timeless Wardrobe In The Sales

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Howdy! The house is quiet, husband isn't back until later tonight so I thought I'd sit down and write a bit of a blog post. Are these still a thing? Do we even read them anymore? Or has Instagram poached the very last crumb? Ahhh well, I'm still here, hope you are too.

I've had a fondness for Me&Em for a fair few years and one of the things that I've come to realise is that a lot of the clothes are cut for rectangles. Handy that as a woman's body shape changes with age and becomes more rectangular. You know, the loss of the waistline, flat bottom and a tendency for weight to settle around the tummy. Not always, but often.


My New Business


Still Getting Organised In The New Gaff

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I started writing a sob story about how since moving house, I've lost tonnes of upstairs storage space but then wondered why you would want to know this. So let's cut to the chase and get down to what I really want to tell you about without the ruddy fluffy stuff. Shoe storage!

I ordered these cheap and cheerful plastic, stackable shoe boxes expecting them to be rubbish and they're actually not bad at all.

Plastic Pull-Out Modular Shoe Boxes

(£24.68 for a pack of 24 & free delivery)

Modular Shoe Boxes


It's All About The White Trainer. A Comparison of High End And Mid Price Trainers And How Do You Keep Yours Clean?

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Let's talk white trainers. Why? Because they are so versatile and look great with trousers, jeans, skirts and dresses. Such an easy option.

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Steam Generator Iron Number 3 (& I'm Not Sulking About Buying Another)

I don't know about you but I just cannot trust online reviews these days, even when they are verified purchases. I was once approached by a brand to give a favourable review on Amazon in return for a gift card which would enable me to purchase the item. Needless to say I said no thanks. Caveat Emptor, let the buyer beware is more pertinent than ever. So with this in mind, let me say that this iron has been purchased with my own money, I have not been approached by, or received any compensation by the brand or it's associates. This is just one of those good old fashioned reviews (yeah remember them?). Affiliate link used. Let the review commence....

Well after 4 solid days of celebrating the little one's 18th birthday, including two days in London, a VERY LOUD teenage house party and family day eating Sunday lunch, drinking copious amounts of anything fizzy and playing rounders in the garden, I'm more than ready to get back to normal.

And you can't get more normal than this....steam generator irons! I first spoke about these two years ago (almost to the date). It's here if you would like to read it. I think they've become a lot more popular and there is certainly far more choice which is a good thing because mine recently died a death. 'Twas a very sad day indeed but I knew it had been coming for a couple of months (you get to know your electrical appliances quite intimately don't you?). I was a bit hmmmm because it's the second one I've had and I thought that it really should have served me another year. But I guess it's worked hard.

So the search was on for another. The steam generator iron hasn't really come on that much since I bought mine. I mean, no radical technological advances such as robotic self ironing or anything. And, I've been more than happy with the old one, so after a quick skirt around the internet, I opted for another Philips.

Philips PerfectCare Elite Steam Generator 

Philips PerfectCare Elite Steam Generator 


Preparing Myself For The Demise Of The Skinny Trosuers

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Oh I couldn't not share these trousers with you!

I'm trying to prepare myself for the demise of the skinny trouser. It's painful and not without tantrums. But it's good to plan forward right? A bit like Brexit really. Yes, skinnies/Brexit, the same really.

Ok, I'll keep this brief just because it's Friday and no one should be blogging on Friday.

Zara isn't my favourite shop but they do a really good basic pair of trousers. I have two pairs already and they seem to wear very well. Not that I panicked or anything but I couldn't find any on the website or in the shop just after Christmas. That's it then, I'm done for.  I'd totally resigned myself to enjoying the ones I have until they fall to bits. I kept telling myself; sod it, they're nothing special, they were only £25 but god that niggle wouldn't go away. And then casually browsing the other night, I came upon these.


Freshening Up Spring Outfits With A Pair Of Shoes

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Quick one from me. I've been after a pair of navy shoes for what seems like decades, certainly the time and effort that has been put into this search feels that way. Why are decent navy shoes so hard to come by?

Anyway, found them! Oh the relief.

They're a perfect style for me and yes the strap does stay up on those skinny ankles if you're wondering. Two-tone with a patent cap toe and a Brucie-bonus padded insole (sigh). Oh and leather too.

Slingback Shoe £39.50

Shoe - M&S

Sometimes I feel the need to slip out of trainers and wear something a little smarter. Same outfits, different shoes. Amazing how a small change can really smarten up a look!

And a great dupe for the Chanel sling-back. Ok the heel is slightly less elegant and the sling back itself is not a perfect copy. There might be a tad more of a pointed toe going on too. Oh yeah and the colour is totally different. But, other than that, same!

I've actually been in love with these for a long time and have even toyed with buying the real things. But when I realised that the dupes came in the nude/black too, I was a woman on a mission. Five stores and weeks of website stalking later, I bagged them. It was stressful. 🙄 Although they've since restocked a few sizes online but if you want them, I'd hurry because there were only the very odd pair of size 3s and 8s in the FIVE stores that I visited.

Slingback Shoe £39.50

Shoes - M&S

Oh and these are even more dupe-y (and they ship worldwide). Got to give them some love too.

Slingback Shoes £90.29

Shoes - Sam Edelman

Now all I need is for the wind and rain to do one.


AWOL (again)

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Oh hi.....is there anyone out there?

How the devil are you? It's been a while.

I know, I know, I've been particularly rubbish this time. I make promises and can't seem to keep them because that damn real life gets in the way. That and the fact that I don't feel I have much to write about anymore. Body shapes, colour, style personality, it's all been covered in previous posts.


We've been in the new house for just over 4 1/2 months, it still feels strange and I'd be lying if I didn't say it's a money-pit. Or should we settle on money-gulf. Urgh!!! The central heating is still alluding the best of plumbers. Burst water pipes that went undiscovered for well, I don't know how long (thankfully on the outside and we're not on a water meter - always an upside). The wasp/ladybird/fly infestation has subsided because of the cold weather and I am so waiting for those little blighters when/if they come back. Oh and the electric gates don't work in cold weather (nothing new there, same problem, different house). And we won't even talk about the wi-fi. We have a full on comms cabinet, yeah sure it looks rather hi-tech, more cables than the BT server but it struggles with even a basic signal in our bedroom. All fur coat and no substance if you ask me.


Chunky or Thin Knits. Which Camp Are You In?

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Klaxon alert, the Nordic chill is on it's way. Brrrrrrrrr. This will be a test for the new house because so far it's been pretty toasty. Mind you, I'm obsessed with the oil gauge which I check daily. That darn marker just keeps on going down and down. Give me a gas meter locked in a box with a funny plastic key that no one can find any day.

Anyway, looks like it's finally hat, gloves and scarf weather. I'm all for a chunky jumper but they do have a fundamental flaw; they're so difficult to layer. I find myself skipping passed them in the wardrobe because for me, they don't work under many of my jackets and coats. Can't stand that stuffed sausage feeling!

This is where thinner knits come into their own. Not only are they easier to layer, they're also a tad more versatile. I'll happily stick a shirt under a crew neck. They're smart enough to wear under a blazer when the occasion calls. And up until today's baltic temperatures, I'd throw on a scarf and go coatless. All the rock and roll!

Celtic & Co asked if I would like to try one of their knits so it was a no-brainer to choose a thin knit. My mother-in-law has bought from this brand for years and my sister-in-law reminded me that she too bought a pair of Ugg style boots ages ago and they're still going strong. So I had high hopes when I placed my order.

I chose the slouchy fine knit roll neck in blush for reasons mentioned above and because blush is one of my favourite colours.


A Few Notes On Building A Capsule Wardrobe

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I've been asked a few times to talk about the elusive capsule wardrobe. What even is that? I guess it means different things to different people. A couple of readers tell me often that they're evangelical about having a certain number of jeans, tops, jackets etc. Wow, I'm always in awe, I have visions of these fabulous colour co-ordinated open wardrobes that you seen on Pinterest. Me? Nah, I like a little bit more choice.


An Answer To My Creaky Joints?? Yep Getting Old Sucks!

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It hit me recently that there are more people that are younger than me in the world, than older. Wow. That hurts! Yep, I don't handle this age thing very well.

See I told you, look at this graph. There are only 29% of people that are older than me (weeps into her tea). Oh to be 3 years old again.


Doing Casual At Home Dressing Without Frightening The Postman

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Bit of a risky one this as I'm talking leggings, come on now, fess up, I'll bet you have a pair tucked away in the back of your drawers somewhere. May be even two pairs 😲 Like Monopoly Boards aren't they, every household has a pair of leggings.

Thing is, sometimes I get up in a morning and all I want to do is wear something totally cosy. My pyjamas for example. But I don't really do casual very well. Smart casual, yes, that's easy. Casual-casual, I just can't pull it off. Never knowingly underdressed, it's not really in my nature.

Ath-Leisure, tried that one, look as if I'm about to work out with Patsy and Edina. Looser jeans aka boyfriend cut...how does anyone cope with the voluminous fabric around the crotch area? Harem pants ditto.

So leggings it is. Except I have a pet hate for black leggings, the ones that Primark sell by the bucket load. A little bit too closely related to 80 denier tights!! I need something with a bit of texture and as if by magic, I spotted these in M&S. Which is rather good news as my non-smart trouser drawer has somewhat depleted.

Jumper - Next
Leggings - Marks & Spencer
Traines - Vionic Shoes


Moving House, Buying Less, Lashes & Brows & Clothing Rails (yep, it's a busy post)

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Moving On

We moved house a few weeks ago, the kids are all grown up (one is in London, the other will be going to Uni next year) so we upsized as you do. 🙈 It wasn't intentional, well not on my part anyway, we just fancied a change and there was very little to choose from. We put our old house up for sale back in March, had 4 viewings and 4 offers. Yas!!! We chose the people who we thought would be the least complicated (in terms of chain, not character). They pushed for an early exchange and completion so much so that I was left breathless, chasing my tail and running around Cheshire viewing houses that bore little resemblance to our wish list. Got to exchange day and the blighters dropped out! That's fickle footballers for you (I'm not naming any names but.....Championship League). Left us with a rather hefty lawyer's bill for what? Nowt!


An Alternative Approach To Weeding Your Wardrobe

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How the devil are you? Long time no speak and all. My blogging brain simply withered and died back in June, a bit like the pot plants in the back garden. But a bit of R&R and I feel ready to go again.

And to kick off, here's an idea that I came up with whilst travelling over the top of the Peak District where radio stations are somewhat limited. It was either The Vinyl Years on High Peak Radio or The History of The Beard on Radio 4. I'll pass thanks.


Yoga Wear Is Not Just For Yoga

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One of the most worn items in my summer wardrobe is a jumpsuit from Baukjen that I bought several years ago. It's both comfortable and versatile. So when Asquith asked if I would like to choose something from their current range, it was a no-brainer really. Except Asquith is all about the yoga. And activewear. I don't do yoga so yeah call me a fraud but I chose their pebble jumpsuit because as much as I'm a partial to a bit of loungewear (and they do it so well), I love this jumpsuit to wear outside of the yoga studio.

Jumpsuit - Asquith
Jacket - Next (old)
Sandals - ASOS (old)
Bag - Boden (old)

Because We All Need A Dependable Dress

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You know, one of those dresses that you can always rely on and reach for time after time. One that seems to work for lots of different occasions. And more importantly, one that you enjoy wearing and feel good in.

This is one of those! It's the other gifted dress from Sosandar.

Dress - Sosandar
Shoes - Next (similar)
Bag - Aspinal of London


A Classic Shape Dress That's Had A Makeover & More Comfy Shoes

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You need a back story to this post....

A few weeks ago, the husband dragged me to an Investors Show in London. ON A SATURDAY. What's all that about? I guess the exhibitors are too busy making money during the week so weekend it is. As we pitched up, I realised it was going to be a very long day. Stockbrokers, Venture Capitalists, Mining Companies. Urgh!

But I spied with my little eye, amongst a sea of suited and booted men, a little ray of sunshine. A stand with ladies clothes and shoes. Oooookay, this needs investigating further.

It was a brand that I'd come across before on Instagram but didn't really know much about it. Sosandar. Have you heard of it? So, I got chatting to co-founder, Julie and Susie, the social media manager, turns out their offices are just down the road from me. Julie explained that the brand is aimed at women who have grown out of Top Shop but still want to look current. So there will always be an element of trend but each piece is made in such a way that it will appeal to the real woman. For example, sleeves. You'll always find some dresses with sleeves because hey, we need a little sleeve coverage from time to time. And there are no nasty surprises. We've all done it haven't we, ordered something that looks flippin fantastic from the front and when it arrives, it's backless almost to the point of showing bottom cleavage. As Julie said herself, 'you can wear a bra with all of our designs.'

I was thrilled to be sent a couple of dresses to try out for myself, although looking at the samples that they had taken to the trade show, I knew then, that this is a brand that I will be buying from in the future.

So let's look at the dress first of all.

Green Floral Print Shirt Dress £69


Holiday Day Dresses, When A Beach Cover-Up Just Won't Do

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I did that thing again today where you pop in to Marks & Spencer for a bag of carrots and come out with everything but. That but being three daytime holiday dresses. Hubby and I are likely to be going to Portugal in June for a few days and whilst I have several (nay many) options for evening wear, my day wear is all a bit tired. Sure, I have lots of Kaftans and cover-ups which are more than adequate for lounging (read that as lolloping) around in the Caribbean. The hotels are slightly less formal during the day and we tend to eat at the outside restaurants. But I need something a little less kaftanified for breakfast and lunch in the Portuguese hotel.

So, as I was meandering my way to the food hall (it's impossible to walk in a straight direction in M&S isn't it?), I had a quick look at their beach dresses and was pretty impressed. They've really upped their game so I thought I'd share them with you along with a few body shape tips. Now given the fact that I was there for no more than 4 minutes, it's safe to say that it was more of a sweep than a carefully considered purchase but I picked up three to try on at home.

First thing to say is how bloomin cheap? I didn't look at the prices and was surprised that the most expensive item was £19.50.

Forgive the photos as this is me doing a quick try-on session back home. Anyone else end up with bed-dump? Mind you, forgive their photos as well, it's safe to say that the dresses are far nicer than they look online.

Flippy Beach Dress £15


Finding The Perfect White T-Shirt

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Ho hum. Let's skip over the fact that I've been AWOL. I could provide a list of excuses as long as my arm but we'll just sum it up in one word. TIME. Anyone else seem to be short of it at the moment?

I started researching and writing this post weeks ago and I fully intended to order lots of white t-shirts so that we could discuss the colour and cut of each one but quite honestly, that's not going to happen in the foreseeable future and I really don't think you want me to talk about t-shirts in December. So, I'll share a few tips that I've picked up over the years and you can do the trying on yourselves. Deal?


Comfy Shoes (Not Something I Thought That I'd Ever Write)

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As much as my mum had the most amazing sense of style from her colour choices right down to her accessories, shoes were a different matter. I used to look at her footwear in despair and can still hear her now, "I don't care Donna, I need to be comfortable." I mean we are talking practical Jesus sandals in the summer and Clod-hopper style ankle boots in winter. Just no. Why ruin a good outfit with sensible sandals? It was foreign to me.

And then I turned 50 and got it. The trainer has been the ruin of me. I open my cupboard, ignore all the lovely mid-heels that I used to wear on a daily basis and dive right to the back for a pair of trainers. For me, that was the defining moment that I realised I no longer qualify for the 40-49 age category in surveys. Nope. I've been ceremoniously dumped in the 50+ category. God. Sensible shoes, warm vests and a tissue stuffed up the sleeve of my cardi. And an endless supply of Murray Mints except in my case it's Maynards' Sports Mix. That's what I have to look forward to.

So yeah, it's comfortable shoes 90% of the time. I'll still wear a heel when I go out-out though.

You may have seen the last post about a brand that I was introduced to, Vionic. Totally smitten with them I am. They're on ration wear at the moment because I've worn them almost every day. Anyway, I thought we could have a look at some cheaper price points today and what makes a shoe comfortable.

I pulled a few pairs out of my wardrobe that aren't boots (hopefully they've been banished until at least October) but not full-on summer shoes either. So, appropriate spring footwear. Because although we may be in flip-flops right now, you can bet your last dollar that the weather will be back to normal next week!