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3.23.2018

I Almost Pulled The Plug On My Blog This Week

It's been creeping up on me for a while but I'm a little bit over blogs. I don't read any so why would someone want to read mine? The blogging world in general seems to be tarnished, bloggers are dropped in to the bucket with traffic wardens, timeshare sales people and the tax man and it's not something I want to be part of anymore. Vilification seems to be the order of the day, you only have to read threads on parenting sites to see this. And I'm merely an amoeba in a gigantic ocean.





And it's all down to consumerism. Well in the fashion world it is.

Over the last year or two, I've become more careful what I buy and I still have too much stuff. Instagram (bah Instagram) is something that I hate, but feel compelled to scroll through as I'm sat in the car waiting for the son to finish school. Or stood at the supermarket checkout. In the dentist waiting room. Why? It brings me no joy. I'm fed up of seeing 'influencers' wearing barely nothing in the depths of winter and more layers than onions in August and September. Yes, I'm looking at you Victoria Beckham. And you NEVER look happy! But then why would you under that woolly jumper when it's 25 degrees outside?

Every other Insta post is sponsored or an advert of some sort. It's like sitting down with the brand new edition of Vogue only to flick through the first thirty pages of ads. Unfulfilling at best. Don't get me started on InstaStories. For me, Instagram is when the rot set in.

And the latest 'must-have' polka dot dress or  frayed edge blazer. The first time I saw the H&M pleated wave skirt I thought, "oh cute". The second time, "there's that lovely skirt again" and the third, "ooooookaaaay" and the fourth and fifth time, "just go away". It felt worn to death to me and I don't even own the bugger. I really shouldn't mind as much as I do because it's their Instagram and they can do what they like but the fact is, it's making me feel fed-up. And I don't mean fed-up in a jealous way because I'm not. Just fed-up with the relentless need of people to own the latest thing before moving on to the next. That polka dot dress will be forgotten before the month is out.

I read a startling fact this week,

In 2015 the fashion industry consumed 79 billion cubic metres of water - enough to fill 32 million Olympic-size swimming pools - Refinery 29 21/3/18 

Gulp! What are we doing?

Don't get me started on fashion week. Firstly, I have all on trying to work out what direction I'm going to go in this season, never mind next. Is it just me, maybe it's my age but seeing bloggers prancing up and down outside Sommerfield House in the hope of getting papped, well, it all seems a little bit desperate?

Sorry, this must come across as terrible. I'm literally chucking my thoughts out here.

It's all become a chore for me: taking photos (which I hate), looking for new stuff instead of enjoying what I have and writing up the posts. And as it's not my real job I have to ask myself, "why are you doing it?" Because I really like my wardrobe as it is. Ok, so my blazers aren't up to the minute trendy. They're shorter and less boxy but they work for my shape. Skinny jeans are supposed to be on their way out but you know what, they suit me. And every one really ought to own a few pieces of lilac. Why, when we'll be on to the next colour that's deemed to be special in September? Anyway, I can't wear lilac other than on my feet! I want to be able to enjoy my wardrobe, making outfits from different pieces instead of worrying about what's on trend and whether I should be wearing this, that or the other.

But then I realised that if I deleted the blog and social media, there'd be no going back. Not just four and a half years of writing down the pan but the interaction with you, my readers (and that sounds terribly pompous but somewhat better than you guys!). I'd miss that for sure. So what to do? I'm guessing that I'll keep this little page open and post when I've got something to say which may or may not be regular. I'm going to enjoy my wardrobe instead of fretting that I haven't put anything on Instagram for a few days because my outfits haven't been instaworthy (cringe).

What I won't be doing is chasing around town searching for the latest must-have. I'll continue to make considered purchases now and again but not regularly. And I think that will make me very happy.

So this isn't goodbye, I won't be making an emotional farewell speech or anything because I'll still be around. Thank you so much for reading and commenting and I'll be back......when I have something to say that I think is blogworthy.






92 comments on "I Almost Pulled The Plug On My Blog This Week"
  1. Donna, it's like you've taken the words and thoughts from my head and articulated them all here. I couldn't agree more on every point you made. I continue at the moment as I'm Almost apprehensive to stop.. I've been doing this 6 years now.. bloggers are ten a penny these days and so are "social influencers" cringe... I feel I have out grown it all to be honest. I don't care for fashion anymore and just want to wear the same things that I love on repeat. Well done you for owning your thoughts and recognising what makes you happy and doesn't. I will still be hoping to see you here from time to time lovely lady xx

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    1. Hi Rachel thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I am so with you on everything you say. I too want to enjoy my wardrobe and wear things over and over because I love them x

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  2. A blog post which probably reflects how so many of us feel about social media these days but are too scared to say it. I for one read 3 or 4 'fashion' blogs regularly - I too am not intetrsted in high fashion, and I do scroll through Instagram every day and think well i couldn't wear that at the supermarket. I love your blog for many reasons but mainly because you are real. The advice is sound amd based on actual knowledge rather than the latest fashion whim. I do hope you keep blogging. And i hope one day I have the confidence to delete Instagram and facebook from my phone. I'm sure I'll be happier without them.

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    1. Hi thanks for dropping by. I'm so pleased that I wrote this post as if nothing else, it has shown me that there are so many of us that feel the same way. I'm taking everything on board and will come up with a plan for the blog x

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  3. Enjoy your clothes and have fun wearing them.

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    1. Yes!!! This! Thanks for taking the time to comment x

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  4. Totally agree but like looking at your blog too - fickle! It concerns me that bloggers order tons of clothes to try on and then virtuously send back saying I was good I only kept one item, what about all the packaging!!! I think you are reflecting a growing disquiet about consumerism and it’s wider impact on us and the planet, need to learn to be content with what we have and selective about what we need. So please do continue to share your style advice but don’t feel you have to include new season items at all and I will certainly continue to stop by and read your posts !

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    1. I wonder if there will be a total u-turn in the not too distant future. It seems to be happening with the older generation now. I was well and truly blown away by how many women feel the same way about consumerism and fast fashion. Thank you so much for your encouragement x

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  5. Hi Donna just wanted to say l have been following and enjoying your blog for a couple of years.I am a 52(!) yr old ordinary working mum trying to deal with family life and a stressful job.Before I turned 50 I decided to try to keep the frump at bay which is why I started following fashion blogs.I don’t look perfect every time I leave the house but l feel if I do make a bit of an effort it does give me a bit more confidence.I like your blog particularly because l feel I can relate to you at the stage of life I am at .From your writing and your insta stories you come across as being a really warm down to earth person.I was particularly touched when you wrote about the loss of your lovely mum.Please don’t give up on your blog I am sure there are lots more women like me who want to get some inspiration from a real life stylish woman

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    1. And that's what it's all about really isn't it, feeling good about yourself. Not about buying into the latest craze, but feeling confident as you step out of the front door each day. Thank you for your kind words, I'm touched that so many women feel that they get something from the blog, that just blew me away this weekend as I read through the hundreds of comments and messages. I'm taking the feedback all on board at the moment and hopefully will come up with a bit of a plan for the blog soon. And my mum was my style icon - she always looked amazing and was never a sheep! x

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  6. Hi Donna, I have followed your witty blog for 4 years now from New Zealand, I love your writing your sense of humour, I am a personal stylist and not a fashion blogger and I made the decision to be more about lifestyle than fast fashion, I don't have the budget or the time to be chasing the latest jacket or skirt! I decided to just be me and wear the same outfits reinvented if necessary as this is how most people live! I don't have a huge following yet as New Zealand is a bit slower with Instagram and I'm happy to just let it grow organically. I have gone back to your blog quite often to re read your articles on colour and body shape and your words have a been a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for putting uourself put there, I for one would miss your blog and Instagram if you were to leave
    Natasha

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    1. Waving from the UK to New Zealand - hi. I'm so glad that you found the articles on colour and body shape useful. They are the posts that I enjoy writing the most. Oh to live in NZ where life seems so much simpler and happier. Hope your Instagram takes off, do say hello and I will follow you back x

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  7. Hi Donna. It's very interesting to read your thoughts on social media, blogging and the fashion industry. What has always drawn me to your blog is that it is about a real person, a person with a genuine sense of style. I have always liked that you wear, and encourage us to wear, what works for our lives and our bodies and our own taste. I like to see how you put together outfits from your existing wardrobe and how you add bits and pieces to update it each season. I am not a fan of Instagram for the reasons you state, and I honestly find fashion week laughable. Good on you too for flagging up the consumerism aspect of fashion. Is it my practical upbringing or what, but I hate wastefulness and like the get maximum wear from everything I buy (or make, and the making is taking over from the buying I admit!). That is another reason why I'm a fan of your blog: the concept of a lasting wardrobe which transcends fast changing trends. I hope you will still be around to help us make sense of how to dress for our real lives. It's always lovely to see how you dress for yours. And I send very best wishes to you.
    By the way, sorry my comments have been thin on the ground of late. I've been recuperating from a stay in hospital with a nasty infection, but fighting back now. Sorry for the epic length of this comment but wanted to let you know how appreciated you are. All the best.

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    1. Gosh, what lovely words. Thank you so much Elaine. You've always been such a supporter of the blog. Sorry to hear that you've been under the weather, I hope that you'll be back on your feet and fully recovered soon. I've been amazed at the number of women who feel the same way as you and I. I thought I'd become somewhat irrelevant in the world of fashion but after the number of comments, I think there may still be a little niche!! Take care x

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  8. Oh Donna, you and me both! I agree wholeheartedly with you. I have been very close to deleting my insta account and blog recently but decided to keep it and only post when I have something really worth showing/talking about. Perhaps this is the master plan? Squeeze out the little folk and let instagram become one giant advertising space for the "influencers". Due to family circumstances I have had to take a step back as we face a major life changing situation and instead of blabbing about it to the world we will be keeping it together as a family. Jut be yourself Donna, your loveliness shines through! Sue xx

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    1. Lol yes, us little people. Except I think that there are far more little people than they ever imagined. Sorry to hear that you've had to take a step back due to family circumstances. Hope everything is ok Sue. Thanks for the words of encouragement x

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  9. Donna, I love the way you write, you are one of my favorite bloggers. Please don’t leave us alone, ok? Kisses from Brazil <3

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    1. Oh hi Denise all the way from Brazil. I have a reader in Brazil woohoo!! Thanks for taking the time to comment, I'm still here x

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  10. I know how you feel but please do keep your blog going. I enjoy reading it xx

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    1. Hi Sarah, thanks so much for dropping by. I've been quite overwhelmed by the response from readers of the blog. I'm going to have a think about how I can take the blog forward and taking on board everyone's comments and suggestions x

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  11. I think there is a saturation point in high street fashion right now. I've read other bloggers comment just this week on the same subject. The incessant marketing that doesn't stop at every instagram post and youtube haul. I love fashion, but acquisition isn't creative. Styling what you have is! Please take a break and refresh your creative outlook. I look forward to your next post.

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    1. Yes I agree Marianne. My daughter sent me an email on this very subject earlier (let's not talk about the fact that she was sat right beside me at the time - do you remember when we used to converse with our families as opposed to email lol). Thanks for the words of encouragement, it means a lot. And as Arnie would say, I'll be back x

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  12. Well said Donna I have been blogging for about 9 years and it has soooo changed. I sometimes feel like I am watching QVC with the latest miracle skincare cream each week and don't get me started with Facebook and algorithms. My most popular posts are "shop your closet" which feels like shooting myself in the foot as my blog has to cover its costs otherwise it would be a very expensive hobby. Like you I enjoy interacting with my readers. In my demographic we definitely don't need to be purchasing the latest thing! Looking forward to seeing where you take your blog next.

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    1. Thanks so much Josephine, I've just sought your blog out and bookmarked it to read later. Love your style by the way. I agree with everything that you say here. Thanks for dropping by x

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  13. I read this post with alarm as well as sympathy! I’m so sorry you feel this way about your blog – as a (mostly) non-commenter but avid reader, I love it! I don’t really “do” Instagram but what I really like about your blog (and some of the other midlife blogs too) is the thoughtful commentary that accompanies the photos. In fact, I think it’s even better than the photos… I’m not looking for glamorous snaps of someone in the latest top/dress/shoes, I want to know what you really think of the clothes, how they hang, why they do or don’t suit particular body shapes, what the colours are really like, what other items they work with… actually that’s probably the best bit for me, as someone who struggles to put outfits together. So I don’t really care if your jackets aren’t this year’s latest or you’re not wearing lilac (yuck – who thought that was a good idea? Does anyone look good in lilac?) – you look great in what you post, whether it’s up to the minute or not. Personally, looking great, rather than the height of fashion, is what I would like too, and if I can benefit from a little of that to figure out what would suit my (different) style I am more than grateful. Obviously it’s your blog and you need to figure out what you want to do with it and where you want it to go, or not, but please do know it’s read, looked forward to, and greatly enjoyed and appreciated xxx

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    1. Such valuable feedback Nell, thank you. I'm taking everything on board and your comment about words being more valuable than the pictures is something I've never really thought about before. Looking and feeling good is exactly what I strive for - you don't want to know me when I have an outfit on that I don't like (lol). It would seem that there are so many women who feel the same way - they want to feel good about themselves but not necessarily have to reinvent their wardrobe every season. I'm so glad that I published this post as I now know that there are like minded women who feel the same way as I do and are happy to read a non-fashion blog. Thanks again x

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  14. I completely understand your feelings about Instagram, the sponsored posts etc. That's the reason I don't do Instagram and only follow a handful of honest blog. I love your blog because I want to know about shapes, colours and classic styles. There was a time when I was constantly searching for the latest and greatest, but I guess as I've gotten older, it all just seems absurd. Why buy something trendy now, wear it 5 times and toss it? I'll be sticking around here, hoping that you'll post every now and then. Thanks for all the hard work you've done in the past, it really helped me xxx Jessica

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    1. Jessica thank you so much. I feel very proud that I've been able to help women just a little bit. And thank you for reading the blog as well. I'm taking on board everyone's comments and will try to come up with a blog that is aimed at like-minded women (us) x

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  15. So glad you’re not disappearing forever Donna, will miss your posts but understand why you’re taking a back seat for now. Enjoy the ride & have fun doing what makes you happy in the meantime. Your posts on dressing for your body shape & finding your colours were my most favourite & useful blog posts ever! Thankyou, Rachel xx

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    1. Thank you Rachel. I've had so many messages from women who are interested in body shape and colour which leads me to believe that there is a little niche for the blog to continue x

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  16. I am glad to hear you won't be abandoning the blog, as it stands out as a particularly honest, down-to-earth and helpful one. Your in-depth training really gives it a lot of credibility too. I wouldn't class you among the type of blogs you mention but I get what you are saying about Instagram particularly. I always look forward to and read your posts, so will eagerly await the next one, whenever that may be.

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    1. Hi Rozanne, thanks for dropping by. It means so much to get this level of support from like minded women and it's made me reassess what I want to achieve from the blog. Watch this space x

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  17. Hi Donna, I’m sorry you’re feeling like this but I completely understand - particularly where Instagram is concerned. I loathe it too, the pressure, the preening, the judging and the commercialisation. I love your blog though. I’ve learned so much from you in terms of colour and style personalities so I’m glad you’re not giving it up. The online world needs strong over 50 northern bloggers who are ever aware that their feet are clay and manage to laugh away regardless. Maybe you just need a break - you’ve had a tough couple of years. Anyway if you ever fancy meeting up do give me a shout. We could share our frustrations x

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    1. Hi Nikki really appreciate the fact that you've taken time to comment. I'm honestly gobsmacked at how many women there are that feel the same way (but then you knew that already didn't you and have aimed your blog at such an audience). I'm having a rethink as to how to move forward but the feedback I've had has been amazing. I do think us over 50 northern bloggers have a voice after all! x

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  18. Hi I never usually comment but I do read your blog regularly. I like it as it is not as full of gifts and collaborations as other blogs, therefore more genuine. I hope you do keep blogging.

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I'm pleased that you think the blog is genuine, it's just an extension of me, Donna, a 50+ year old woman who loves clothes (not necessarily fashion). I'm having a bit of a rethink as to what I want to achieve from the blog but the feedback from people has been amazing. Hope you'll still carry on reading x

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  19. Well said Donna. I Love it. You have such a great sense of style, you absolutely don’t need better quality photos or Instagram-worthy outfits. honestly some bloggers who are always trying to wear what’s “it” everyday and force it, end up looking ridiculous anyway. Your blog and Instagram are lovely and so very refreshing. Keep on being you!

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    1. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. I'm more of a words girl than a picture girl anyway lol. I think there's a growing number of women who feel the same way as you and I x

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  20. Stop it Donna! Don’t you go anywhere - I read your blog (and look at the dreaded Instagram feed) precisely because every post isn’t a sponsored one, and because you look at current clothing shapes and ‘trend’ colours and show how you can make them work / bypass them if you are the ‘wrong’ shape or have the wrong colouring. I’m and autumn and I’d look like Nosferatu in lilac, but I’m now off to Google lilac shoes :)

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    1. Nosferatu - just spat my tea out! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. You echo so much of what others have said. I didn't realise that there was so much interest in colour and body shape. I'm absorbing everything that you're all telling me. Yes lilac shoes! If you can't wear it next to your face, wear it on your feet! Next have a fab pair of lilac kitten heel shoes if that's your thing x

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  21. Oh Donna, I know exactly what you mean. It can be all consuming. But like you I know what suits me and don’t want to stop wearing skinnies! Nor do I want to wear what everyone else is wearing. I love your approach and your humour. So....keep up the good work. Lots of love xxxxxx Liz xxxxx

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    1. Thanks Liz, that means a lot. I kind of get a mild panic attack every time I hear that skinnies are on their way out. Not because I'll be irrelevant but because I might not be able to buy them. Think I may need to stock up on the coated skinnies lol. x

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  22. i agree with you, i have stopped folowing some bloggers, as i got fed up with seeing the same items all the time and all the frebies they get, how to know if they really like the item or only saying they do to get more.
    ps please carry on blogging i do enjoy reading your blog.x

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    1. Hi Linda thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I'm so pleased that you enjoy reading the blog. In fact, I've been blown away by everyone's support. Golly gosh, the number of messages and comments have been unreal. I'm working out where I go from here but have such valuable feedback that I can take on board and hopefully can use to take the blog forward x

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  23. Hi Donna, I wondered why you hadn't posted recently and this explains it. You know I suspect there are many more readers than you think - people like me who often read and think 'that was interesting' but don't comment. Perhaps if we commented more you would maybe feel like posting more often. I thoroughly enjoy your posts. I find them to be down to earth, sensible, well thought out and genuinely helpful. What they are not is fashion crazed, jumping on the latest band wagon. Who needs that. Most of us do not. The posts I have found the most useful are the shape and colour related blogs. These are topics that most bloggers do not address. These are not fashion driven but style driven and therein lies a world of difference. Please keep posting, write the stuff you are great at - it really is useful. Kind regards, Anna

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    1. You are so right Anna, I had no idea. When I wrote this post, it was more of a brain dump but the level of support has been phenomenal. And over and over again women have said that they want shape and colour related posts, not high fashion. I never knew!! So thank you so much for the feedback and hope you'll keep reading x

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    2. Wow you've had loads of comments on your post, so many of us clearly feel similarly. I was thinking that what I would find useful is more on shape and colour as previously mentioned plus perhaps addressing the latest pantone colour and variations of to suit every colour palette. Also perhaps blogs addressing the fashiony seasonal add-ons that can help to update an outfit by breathing new life into old favourites making them more current. Photos of the right and wrong shapes and colours - yes I know you've done this but to be honest some of us need it hammering home and anyway it is very interesting and always a good reminder. My wardrobe has transformed since I remain true to shopping for my shape. I have noticed that the clothes I do not wear are the ones that do not suit my shape, no surprise there I know but it is interesting when you drill down and suddenly the light dawns that the reason you've not worn it is because the offending item wold look so much better on another body shape. Apologies for the length of this but wanted to get my thoughts down. On a separate topic - have you investigated ultherapy? Sadly the Harley Clinic do not provide this, have asked. Kind regards, Anna x

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    3. Fantastic feedback Anna, thank you so much. I'm definitely sucking it all up. And please do let me know if you have any more suggestions. I wish I'd written this post months ago because the tremendous response has been so valuable.

      And I didn't think I'd heard of ultherapy until I googled it - I just wasn't familiar with the name. Have you had it done Anna? Love to hear more about this. x

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  24. FYI - I took the plunge and had botox form the Harley Clinic following your blog on this subject last year and I am so pleased I did. Regards Anna

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    1. Yes!!! They are excellent aren't they. Hope you feel like the best version of you xx

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    2. Yes they are, I shall definitely be returning. So worth it, Thanks for the recommendation x

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  25. Another one who hopes you do continue, when ready. I’ve never commentated before but you have helped me so much - my shape changed following illness/ops and I really struggled to find clothes for my new shape & your posts on dressing for your body shape were such a help and I fell back in love with clothes and felt good again. Plus you always bring a smile to my face with your posts. Thank you. Sammy x

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    1. Hi Sammy, I'm so touched that you've commented, thank you. I genuinely never knew that there was this level of support out there. I've had so much feedback and suggestions that I'm now forming a picture of how to evolve the blog. Thanks again and hope you're feeling good about yourself x

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  26. Hi Donna, i love reading your posts, your down to earth attitude is refreshing. i do hope you will still blog a line or two every so often.
    Maybe a blog name change will open up some different topics for us to chat to you about. I have recently had a cull on some of the instagram accounts that i follow as they where effecting my sense of self worth and making me feel a bit rubbish so can totally understand your feelings and those of everyone that has sent you messages.
    i for one will keep popping over here to see what your up to.

    hugs from another northern girl called Donnax

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    1. Hi another Donna from up North. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I'm absorbing everything that you are all saying. I didn't realise that there were so many like minded women who want to feel good about themselves but not necessarily buy in to all of the trends. There seems to be a little corner of the blogger market that I can call my own and I hope you'll continue to read x

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  27. Exactly how I have been feeling lately! Keep on blogging and forget Instagram. I read your blog all the time! Let us know what you are wearing and why you enjoy it! It seems the seasons are getting shorter and shorter--phooey on that, maybe if enough of us do not buy into it we can make a difference!

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    1. Hi Diane, thanks for dropping by and commenting. Lots of the big retailers seem to be working on about 6 seasons a year to try and squeeze every last penny from us. Eeek! I want to enjoy my wardrobe for what it is and it seems that lots of other women do too. Do you think the tide is turning? I do. x

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  28. I always read your blog. The posts I really enjoy? The colour ones and dressing for your shape and how you put outfits together. I couldn't give a toss if you have new stuff. Far more interesting - what the overall trends are and how you are working with what you've got and staying current WITHOUT buying a shed load of new crap twice a year. summer holiday wardrobe ideas would be nice too, I'm off to Fiji next month and am floundering!

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    1. Gosh Lizzie, everyone seems to be saying the same thing: colour and shape and putting outfits together. This is such valuable feedback for me. I honestly didn't realise that there was so much interest and wrongly assumed that women were looking at the high fashion bloggers. Yes I'm so over buying stuff for one season and then ditching it. Wow, Fiji - how exciting! I've got to be honest and say that I find holiday dressing the most difficult. I've found that building up a good stock of kaftans that I feel good in makes me feel good about myself. So decide on your best shape whether that be a tunic style or belted, voluminous or more fitted and use that as a blue print. I've been buying slightly longer ones this last couple of years (so slightly above the knee) as they are appropriate for restaurant and bar stops during the day. For sight seeing I'd suggest again finding your very best dress style and replicating it. Patterns are good at hiding creases, lumps and bumps and any sweat patches (sorry). I'm not really a shorts kind of girl as I find them very hot. The Holster Australia sandals are amazing day-to-night options and add a little bit of glamour to your daytime wardrobe. I always treat myself to a new beach bag but don't spend lots as they get ruined. Anyway, enjoy, it sounds amazing x

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  29. Hey Donna - Just wanted to let you know that I understand how you feel but am soooo pleased you are not deleting your blog. I LOVE reading your posts that are honest, trustworthy and quite frankly the best blogs out there (in my opinion obvs!!). Please keep ‘em coming duck .... as they say in my neck of the woods!! I for one really appreciate your little pearls of wisdom - thank you Donna xxxx

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    1. Hi Donna thank you so much for your lovely comments. I never realised that there were so many women who enjoy what I write. I'll be (hopefully) coming back with a newer shinier blog soon x

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  30. I hope this means that you might expand upon the subjects you write about on your blog, rather than write less frequently. You write very well, and your advice is always so good. The steam generator iron post changed my life (and to quote you, yes you did just read that) xx

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    1. Thanks so much Katherine, you're very kind. Oh yes steam generator irons, they are the best!!! My friends laugh at my enthusiasm for them. I've had so much feedback and lots of comments which has made me rethink how I move forward with the blog. Just processing it all at the moment but I'm genuinely blown away. Thank you x

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  31. Hi!
    I don't usually comment either, but I read quite a few 40+ blogs and yours is my favourite. As others have said, the body shape and colour posts I have referred to a lot, and I know that, as I am short, boot cut and skinny jeans suit me best. Therefore you can keep the wide leg crop and the other 'must wear' shapes- I think it can all be a bit like the Emperor's new clothes anyway!
    Please don't give up posting altogether, I love the fact that you don't take trends quite so seriously. After all it should be style over fashion!

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    1. Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. I've made a note of everything that everyone is saying although the theme seems to be, more colour and body shape stuff which is exactly what you have mentioned. Totally get Emperor's new clothes - I think I referred to this in a post last year x

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  32. Nooo! Please don’t leave us! While a seasonal ‘what’s in’ post is of interest to me (we don’t have the depth of choice in Australia and I like to see what else is out there), it’s the analysis of what does and doesn’t fit with your/our existing wardrobes that keeps me reading. Your body shape series was the aha moment as to why I never wore those dropped shoulder tops. Now purged and never to be bought again. I like to wear my clothes to death, but add a couple of refreshers, when what’s ‘in’ suits my style and cool colouring. I’m a yes to lilac, but it won’t be the trending and $$ Tibi blazer, because a) can’t afford it and b) wouldn’t wear it in subtropical Oz; but a linen shirt and perhaps some sandals would be great with the black, white, navy I favour. But, these will then stay in the wardrobe until they die, not chucked out when the fashionistas tell us that lilac is so last week. Yellow and orange on the other hand would not work on me, nor does crazy multi colour/pattern mixing however much insta tells me I ‘need’ whatever is in today. I think the power of the over40 blogger and consumer should be in having the confidence to be selective, and wear what we know suits us. If we can afford to add/replace that’s lovely, but what to wear is only one aspect of our multi faceted lives. To me, you walk that walk, and haven’t been sucked in to the commercialisation, which is why we need you. When you have something to say of course! RachelinOz

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    1. Oh hi Rachel in Oz, thanks so much for dropping by and commenting. You make so many interesting points and I think there are lots of others who stand right by you (me for one). I'm so much more interested in style and feeling good about myself than getting hold of the next big thing. I have so much to think about because of the feedback that I've received. But it seems that there's a call for more style and colour posts rather than fickle fashion. Watch this space Rachel and thanks so much for reading from the other side of the world x

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  33. Hi Donna, another silent fan here. I do hope you continue to blog in whatever manner works for you. I’ve stopped following a number of blogs for many of the reasons you mention but yours is one I faithfully read simply because you have great style and a great sense of humour to boot. Hope to see you back soon!

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    1. Hello silent fan, so pleased you dropped by to say hi. Thanks so much for reading the blog, it means such a lot to me. I've been well and truly gobsmacked at the level of support and it's really made me reassess how I approach the blog from now on. I'll be back soon x

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  34. This was such a refreshing read Donna - thank you for writing it! As a designer with my own brand I have endless social media 'schedules' to keep up with and newsletters to write and at the start of this year I thought exactly the same. I DO NOT have to tweet everyday. The relief. I used to agonise over finding something witty or original to post but now I really don't care, I post whatever I want, whenever I want and if it's interesting. And there are weeks when there is simply nothing interesting to say or share and in those instances, I'm silent and all the happier for it!

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    1. Lol yes, it's as if a light has been switched on isn't it Eleanor. I'm only checking in to social media 2 max 3 times a day and you know what? It's still there. I think it can become your foe rather than your friend if you're not careful and I think small businesses really do have it tough. Glad you've got your happy space back and hopefully you'll keep reading the blog x

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  35. Stay with us Donna! Like others, I love your "normal" perspective on thingthings. I read 3 blogs, yours, Midlifechic and The Frugality - Alex at The Frugality is taking a well earned break to have a baby so the thought of you laying low too is somewhat depressing (much as I thoroughly enjoy Midlifechic i like the variety of more than one blog with my cup of tea). You don't have anything to prove or anyone to keep up with - I see yours as a style blog, high fashion is not for me. Glad you're getting lots of support from people like me who Hoover up everything you write but rarely (if ever) comment.
    Best wishes, Marian

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    1. Thank you so much Marian. This means a lot to me, I never realised I had so many silent readers. Well I kind of did because my stats tell me but readers who seem to care. I've had a few days to mull over what everyone is saying and I have a rough plan on how to move forward so I hope that you will carry on reading. Alex's baby Peggy is just too cute xx

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  36. Hello, just to say agree agree agree, but then - that's why we need you! As the more sane voices (esp for those of us of a certain age ) the better. You've made a huge contribution, doing it in the way that makes you happy seems like a win win . Good luck and thank you for all you've done already

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    1. Hello Annie, thanks for dropping by and taking the time to comment. I've been quite blown away by the number of comments and it's made me have a huge rethink on how I'm going to take the blog forward. Hope you will continue to read x

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  37. Yeah, what everyone else is saying! I like blogs and don't do Instagram, and I'm not a big commenter, but that doesn't mean I don't return and enjoy new posts. I go through periods of just wanting to play with my existing wardrobe and periods of feeling as though I'd like some change. I think everyone does, and yet we're all still interested in clothes and style. Some of my favorite blog posts are when a blogger repeats an item in a new way, remaining in the realm of reality.

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    1. Yes Beth that's it exactly isn't it. My change periods tend to be at the start of spring and autumn and I want to buy everything (eeek). No coincidence that they are my favourite seasons. I've got a long list of what my readers (god that sounds so bloody pompous but you know what I mean) want. Unbelievable feedback. You know, companies spend thousands and thousands on market research. I've got all of this for free! Thank you x

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  38. I've only recently started reading your blog (another blogger I like linked to it). I really enjoyed catching up on some old posts, especially the ones on body shape. I like your writing style and the fact that you feature some less expensive brands. I'm not an Instagrammer - I just can't be bothered but do enjoy blogs like yours. Hope you don't give up on it!

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    1. Don't go there, don't do Instagram, it's the devil (lol). I'm so pleased that you like the blog and thank you very much for reading. After all the feedback that I've received, I'm devising a plan to move forward with the blog x

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  39. Hi Donna
    I read your blog all the time and also love looking back at older blogs you have written, I never leave comments but do hope you continue to write your fashion blog. I follow a few fashion bloggers to get style inspiration and yours is inspirational. Please don't give it up but if you are unhappy with instagram or other social media sites give them up!! I have realised since becoming 50+ myself that life is too short to be doing things that don't make us happy.
    Your blog is much loved by many after reading the comments left, I hope you don't give up but you must do what makes YOU happy.
    All the best Donna

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    1. Wow, lovely, lovely comments Sharon, thank you so much. I've been totally gobsmacked with the number of replies (literally hundreds and hundreds across every platform, email and DMs). Never realised what I was saying was of value! I would love to give up social media but they are kind of my vehicle to drive traffic to the blog so sadly they'll stay but I've put a few strategies in place and don't hop over to Instagram particularly every hour of every day. How bloomin refreshing. New shiny blog (kind of) to follow. Thanks for taking the time to comment x

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  40. Donna you are a breath of fresh air, please stay with us, keeping it real with your great advice and down to earth attitude! Helen xx

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  41. Hi Donna. Another avid reader here. I love your blog precisely because it is not high fashion. I’m more interested in your style be it New or old favourites in you wardrobe. How you put outfits together and generally look brilliant and so stylish all the time.
    I also love your accounts of holidays and the sorts of things you pack. Turkish towels have been a revelation!!!
    I do hope you keep blogging
    Oonagh

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    1. Gee thanks Muireann. What lovely feedback. Turkish towels are ace aren't they especially if you're only taking hand luggage. It used to bug me to death when we would go to the apartment and then on the last day, the hubby and kids insisted on taking the freshly washed towels to the beach which meant that a) I'd have to beg the cleaner to wash them (she would only do bath towels) or b) take them home. Turkish towels would have saved many an argument!! Anyway, I've got a long, long list of suggestions from everyone's feedback and I'm currently thinking how I take the blog forward to incorporate these. Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment. x

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  42. Interesting post and thoughts about Instagram. I like Instagram but don't follow any fashion people - more makers and creaters and I come away feeling inspired - I wonder if that's the reason why.
    I am in my mid forties and have always liked your blog for its practical style advice - I never feel like you are trying to push any fashions - you are just a stylish lady sharing ideas!
    I think the idea of 'infuencers' is laughable - I see the 'must have' item and am put off cos everyone is wearing it - who wants to be the same as everyone else?! I think the only people influencers are influencing is each other, which is a bit bonkers really!
    You keep doing what makes you happy and I'll read along when you post x

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    1. Instagram is a funny place to be at the moment. There is such a back lash on every level and I think those guys at head office are still thrashing around themselves not knowing what to do with the beast they've created. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I'm sucking it all up. I think when you hit 40, you kind of just want to be comfortable and confident in your own body don't you? And that's where I thought I'd become irrelevant because there are so many mature women chasing after the next big thing and wearing the latest trends. Who would be interested in my style? Well, it would appear that there are a lot of like minded women out there who want to be the best version of themselves. Thanks again for the lovely comments x

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  43. Hi Donna. It's been wonderful to have a read through all the messages of support that have been sent to you. I couldn't agree more with the comments on enduring personal style versus passing trends. I do hope you feel encouraged to carry on, in whatever way suits you. It must take up much of your valuable time to produce your blog and I'm sure we understand that your priority must be your own life, which as people have said is of course infinitely more important. Though I do understand that it was more a disillusionment with blogging and the fashion industry that prompted your last post, rather than just time pressures.
    I have already learned so much from you and smiled and laughed, and at times been sad with you too. Thank you so much for all the time you've put into your blog.
    I'm not at all surprised at the level of support that's been shown for you. Yours has always been THE best blog and you will always be The Most Stylish Lady. Your styling skills, fabulous sense of humour and great quality advice will always stand out against the loud background noise of the internet. I think most of us are getting more selective in who and what we spend time reading
    I look forward to following you again in the future, as and when. Best wishes Donna xx

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    1. Elaine, what another lovely little note, thank you. You're so kind. I really enjoy our chats and your knowledge about clothes cuts and dressmaking is really interesting. Yes you're right, a blog post can take hours to produce but it was really the disillusionment of the blogging world that the prompted the last two posts. I can move on from this though as I now know that there are so many like-minded women who feel the same way as you and I. Thank you so much Elaine, your support is invaluable xx

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  44. Just back from holiday and catching up. Horrified to think that you might be giving up. You're one of the few who can be trusted to give an honest view of what's in the shops, and your knowledge about colour and what to wear for one's shape is invaluable. You are appreciated and enjoyed.

    One other thing. I've just read all the comments and I am so impressed that you have answered every one.

    With all good wishes.

    Susan D

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  45. Im Canadian so I tend to read more USA blogs than UK ones. That said, I really enjoy blogs. Magazine's on this side of the pond are slowing dying. I should know, I used to be in magazine publishing working for a leading Women's publication that published 12X a year with 200 plus pages of content. Now it is being published 6X a year and you'll be lucky to get 68 pages of content. That's why I enjoy blogs for fashion and beauty advice. I'm 55 so I don't care as much about trends but I still want to know what's new and blogs are a great source. I'm sure being a blogger is difficult. Coming up with content and having to post on a regular basis must be taxing. In the US there are some bloggers that earn a very substantial living. However, the ones that do are far and few between and well established. By the way, I also loath the term "influencer" probably because most bloggers are in their 20 and Im a grown woman who isnt going to emulate or even care to copy what they're wearing. I just look at the clothing etc. and if I like a particular style, I adapt it to my age. PS-love your style and can relate to it. Good luck with you blogging journey.

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    1. Hi Jane sorry it's taken me ages to reply. Your post was buried between hundreds of spam messages. I kind of miss the good old days where a shiny new magazine was a real treat. I think blogs have had a huge effect on print haven't they? And I'm not sure how good it is for the well being of some of these bloggers and vloggers as they seem to be 'on call' 24/7. Imagine not being able to take a day off even when you're on holiday for fear of losing subscribers. Thanks for taking the time to comment and read the blog (albeit posts have been quite few and far between this year) x

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